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Abundant Living

October 5, 2011

     Today I have hit a milestone.  This is my 100th blog.  YIPEE!  My first blog was written on May 28th.  For 4 months I have diligently pursued a purpose.  That purpose has been YOU, dear reader.  Did you know that you have become an important part of my day?  Did you know that you have become important to my family and that your quality of life is the topic of many discussions in my home?

     It is true.  My husband and I both sincerely care about every reader.  Every day I am honest and revealing about my own flaws and shortcomings only because it is my hope that if I am honest, you may see your own mistakes in mine.  Our days and lives are but a breath and regret stinks, so I hope you help you avoid the pitfalls that our busy society lays before us.

     I will share with you the goals I have in mind when I write.

  1.  I hope to entertain you.  We are all very entertaining and the things we do are quite funny at times.  I think a little laughter at ourselves is good medicine.
  2. I hope to make you aware.  Have you ever heard the expression, “You can’t see the forest for the trees”?  What that means is that it is hard to see clearly when we are in the midst.  We are all in the midst of life and sometimes calm, rational reflection is not an option.  I hope to offer you that, at least for as long as it takes for you to read my blog.
  3. I want to bring hope.  Our daily lives can feel like drudgery.  We live with never ending lists and there does not seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel.  You may have seen the light but you are sure it is a train.  There is hope.  If you are able to try and apply my easy suggestions such as; dinner with the family, lingering at the dinner table and remembering your favorite things, you are on the path to making greater changes.  OK, here is one of those revealing stories I told you about.  Many years ago, I was heading into surgery.  I was so overwhelmed with my life that I thought it would be fine if I died during surgery, because I just couldn’t bear coming back to my overwhelming life.  I have been there, actually just last week I was teetering on the edge.  Dear friend, do not lose hope.  There is more than just light at the end of the tunnel.
  4. I want to make a change.  First, I seek to change my own life.  I want to live a life that is truly life.  I want to help you make changes so that you will love your life.  I want to help bring mother’s hearts back to their children.  I want to exchange busyness for myself and others, while fulfilling and living to the fullest, our divine calling.

     So these are the main desires that I have as I write you each day.  For too many years I lived in a whirl wind and I couldn’t get out.  Well, I have jumped off the merry go around, it wasn’t so merry.  But as I stood on calm ground and watched it continue to spin, I saw all those I cared for still spinning wildly around.  Here is my hand, grab it as you go by and I’ll pull you off.

     I have one more personal note to share with you.  One year ago this month, I had minor surgery.  First, let me say surgery is never minor, they lied.  I recovered for one week and at week’s end I hosted, “Theatre Under the Stars” our backyard talent show.  It was too much too soon, but that was how I did things, always too much too soon.  Five months later I underwent surgery again.  This one was in the major category.  There were no parties at the end of that week.  I spent months curled in a cozy corner of my sofa, watching a fire, reading fun books, listening to French music, writing and suffering in pain.  My overachieving tendencies were smacked to the ground.  Thank God!  During this forced convalescence, God got my attention.  Let me make this point clear.  He was not the cause of my infirmity, my choices and my lifestyle were.  But in the midst, He met me and spoke to me and changed my heart.  It was during this time that he showed me what really mattered in life and how I was missing it because of my busyness.  During that time I wrote a book that I hope one day will be published and help many Mamas.  This blog was born from that book.  At that time, I also made the commitment to eliminate all outside activities for my girls for one year.  As difficult as it seemed, we quit Children’s choir, no Curtain Call, and no young girls club.  I thought they would rebel and revolt.  They did not.  They loved their activities but the true reason they wanted to go was to see their friends.  I told them that if we did not have to be at all these activities we would actually have time to invite friends over to play.  They easily and simply said, “Ok.”

     Today my suggestion and challenge to you is this.  Think about the activities that your children participate in.  Why do they participate?  Is the reason you began this activity being fulfilled?  I joined one activity with hopes of more mother-daughter time.  That did not happen.  It actually caused less of that.  Ask yourself if the value of that activity outweighs time WITH your children.  It is up to you to decide what makes the cut.

     I chose to eliminate everything because my girls are about to turn 11.  I do not have many more years left where mother-daughter time will be their desire.  And do not let society or the devil lie to you and tell you how one year away from the busyness will scar them for life.  Their singing talents may diminish with no instruction,  that may be true.  No drama this year means they miss out on wonderful plays like “Repunzel” and “Puss in Boots.”  But the gain is far greater than any loss.  I also believe that regarding talents and gifts; God will give and bless when we pursue the correct things.

     So it is time for some thinking and praying.  Ask God to direct your efforts.  If you desire change, He will help you make it. God came to give life and life more abundant.  Are you living abundant life in this area?

     Tomorrow I will still be here with blog number 101.  I hope you will join me.  I have more to share and I really do care.  So subscribe to this blog if you have not already done so and you will receive it as an e-mail.  Let’s discover together all that life has to offer.  I know it is more than spinning on the merry go round.

“I have come that they may have life and have it more abundantly!” John 10:10

To celebrate my 100th blog, I am having a contest.  For the next week, every time you comment on my blog your name will be entered in a drawing for the book, “Simplify – A Life Anchored in Purpose” by Sue Ann Cordell.  This book is a 6 week guide and bible study on ways to change habits, re-prioritize, set goals, and begin to experience a simpler way of life.  It can be used for individual study or in a group setting.

I already have this book ready to send out, so once I have a winner, it will be sent within a week.  For those of you who won my last contest, I finally have the copies of “Slow Down Therapy” to send you.  They will be coming your way soon.

I am thinking of heading up a group session of “Simplify”.  If you are local and are interested, send me an e-mail at

For those interested in purchasing your own copy of “Simplify”  check out Sue Ann’s website at



8 Comments leave one →
  1. Lucy permalink
    October 5, 2011 7:25 am

    ~Beautiful post~ I am so blessed to know you.


  2. scott kaufmann permalink
    October 5, 2011 8:11 am

    I really like this one!!!

  3. Cathy McDermott permalink
    October 5, 2011 9:05 am

    Thanks Debbie for the reminders again to slow down.

  4. October 5, 2011 9:20 am

    Thank you for allowing God to use you to encourage and inspire us. No matter what stage of life we find ourselves in, your words are applicable. Happy 100th Anniversary! Keep writing. . . You are making a positive difference!

    We must get together sometime – I know it would be a blast – we seem to have a lot in common. Thank you for your support of Shineworthy Lifestyles!!

  5. October 5, 2011 10:36 am

    Congratulations! Keep going!

  6. Alicia McKnight permalink
    October 6, 2011 7:39 am

    Thank you Debbie for your openness and for allowing God to speak through you, as well as to use you. As women, we need to encourage one another.

  7. Libby permalink
    October 6, 2011 11:17 am

    Debbie, I see your comments on Sue Ann’s site and decided to check you out too. I am enjoying reading what you have wrote and have decided to subscribe to you too so I can keep reading. You are a blessing and I hope you have hundreds and hundreds of more posts to come 🙂

  8. October 11, 2011 9:06 pm

    Tonight I took the time to read this and all the passed ones. I am so blessed to read all your writting Debbie as I know it is the truth and we all need to take the time to let it work wihin us more than just reading it. Jesus is wanting all of us to take a good look at what we do daily. this was great. Jody

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